The Measure of True Forgiveness

True forgiveness is not just the absence of malice; it is also the presence of unconditional love - even love toward the offender.   Such radical forgiveness, such willing surrender, is a super natural grace found only at the cross.                            

It is only in the out pouring of our “self” that we make way for Christ’s overcoming love to fill us and flow through us to the world around us.

Faced with this crucifying reality, we may find ourselves tempted to justify a stubborn, unforgiving heart. After all, many of us have borne great offenses. The wounds run deep, the damage is great. How could God call us to abandon the post of self protection and be willing to love in abundance? Doesn’t He understand how much it hurts? Doesn’t He understand our betrayal? Doesn’t He see how wicked, perverted and unjust the violence was against us?

Yes, God is compassionate.  He will comfort you in your grief. But I ask you to consider Him who went before us.  How great was the wound YOUR sin inflicted upon Him? Is not your betrayal against Him greater than what you have suffered at the hands of others? He that knew no sin became sin – YOUR sin – that you might become His righteousness.

So can we ever justify defying His request to forgive as we have been forgiven – to love as he has loved us?

Be wary of nursing the wounds of your offense. There is no room at the cross for self-pity.  By His stripes you ARE healed from that wound, but ONLY if you make the exchange.  Jesus asks “do you want to be made well”?  Do you want to be whole – then you must go the way of the cross. You must embrace the pain – do not try to avoid it. You must move forward in a willingness to display Christ love, you mustn’t shrink back in fear of future offense. When you said “yes” to Jesus, you surrendered your right to remain in bondage to offense.

If indeed your life is hidden in Him, you will find the grace to love as He loves – to move beyond offense with a tender, broken heart, still willing to let His love seep out and water a dying world.

Yes, somehow resurrection life comes. The Holy Spirit is attracted to a broken contrite heart that is yielded to the purposes of God.  God comes forth in the midst of our anguish and makes all things glorious and new.

Keep your eyes on the prize which is Christ Jesus. Remember, when Christ, who is our life, appears, you will share in His glory (Col 3:4). Nothing you have endured can compare to this richest of treasures.